Well, kind of...
I've spent the last few months taking some time to figure out where I was going with CCK. And I have a confession: I still don't know what I'm doing.
These past few weeks and months are really throwing me for a loop. For anyone that cares about issues related to diversity, inclusion, and equity - every day since January 20th has been somewhat of a nightmare. And it seems to get worse with each passing day. I think it's leaving all of us confused about how to move forward, what we'll tell our kids, how we'll get to a place that doesn't feel so divisive.
I know I'm referring to politics, which I tend to stay away from here on the blog, by mentioning January 20th, but really everything that I'm thinking about is not about politics. It's about us as people - how we get along, how we treat each other, and how we see each other. Over the past few weeks and months I've felt something. Something profound. Something that's sitting in the pit of my stomach. I've had the feeling that the way we're approaching things is not quite right. Not that people fighting on behalf of inclusion are doing something wrong. In fact, I think just the opposite - I so admire all those who step up and lend their time, expertise, and voice to a movement. But I do feel that there is something missing. Something relational, something human, that part feels like it's missing. I'm not sure what that is, but I'm going to use this blog to talk out my thoughts. I always tell people that I think out loud, so here goes...
The truth is that I don't know what I'm doing and I don't have it figured out. But I'm trying to make sense of it all and I'd rather do that with some company than by myself. And besides - I missed ya! And I hope that you missed me. A little? A teeny bit? Not trying to sound desperate here, but...
Sigh Ok, well I missed you and frankly, I was a bit lonely. And going a little crazy with all these thoughts running through my head without a really good way to get them out (friends and family can only tolerate so much and not everyone's boss is ok with a friend calling in the middle of the workday to talk about diversity - go figure). So I'm back. And I'm doing things a little bit differently. At least for now. Until I have it all figured out.
This could be awhile.
So I want to let you know what to expect from the new CCK. What I'll be bringing and what I won't. Brace yourselves...
What you will get:
More of ME: That's right people - I'm bringing you more of who I really am. That crazy rambling you just read above - that's the real me and you're about to get more of it. The truth is, I'm a little nutty and all over the place. I make mistakes and try to learn from them. I definitely do not have it all figured out. And by 'it all' I mean anything. It may not be pretty, but it'll be real - and hopefully at least a little entertaining.
Honesty: About what I know and what I don't. About my thoughts - no matter how outrageous. And I'm definitely calling out the bullshit that I see, because I live in DC and trust me, there's plenty. You'll also get to see and read about my mistakes - and there are a lot to choose from. At least a few times a week I smack myself on the forehead and yell 'D'oh!' a la Homer Simpson (sometimes in my head like I should and sometimes out loud to the dismay of others around me). In my CCK blogs I've always said that it's important not to expect perfection from yourself. And modeling is how people learn, so here goes...
Thoughts and feelings mixed with psych nerdiness: You didn't think I was going to change completely did you? You'll still get interesting tips and tricks, fascinating psych facts and how they relate to diversity, and information about easy ways to implement this stuff in your own lives. I'm learning right alongside you so if you are a nerd like me and have interesting tidbits - please share!
What you won't get:
Pictures of my kids: It's just a thing that I have. I don't think there's anything wrong with posting pictures of your kids online. In fact, I love that my friends do it and I get to see their adorable little ones. I know I'm weird, but hey, we all have our things. So, I'll be talking about my kids and the ridiculous things that they say and the silly things we do together - I just won't be posting any pictures of them. So when I say that they're the cutest kids on earth, you're just going to have to take my word for it.
Clean language: I'm from New York. I curse (sorry Mom). Hopefully not in front of the kids. But a study has shown that people who curse are smarter so I'll gladly own this one. I'll be sharing how I think and that sometimes (ok often, but I'll try to tone it down a little) involves expletives. If that offends, feel free not to read - I'm not going to edit things for you (unless you're my Mom - then I'll take requests).
Answers: Yeah, sorry to say, I just don't have 'em. In fact, I have way more questions than answers. The more that I try to find an answer, the more questions pop up. So I'll ask questions, give you my thoughts, and ask for yours. Who knows - maybe we'll figure all of this out together.
So there you have it. I'm going to write things that strike me, that I'm thinking about, that I find ridiculous, funny, scary, and intriguing. You'll still get the nerdy me, but you'll also get weird me, funny me, and freaked-out me - all with an eye on diversity and kids. I won't be coming at you quite as often (once a week was a little much for you and me amiright?), but don't worry, just when you think you haven't heard from me in awhile, I'll pop back up.
If you have the time (because that's just what everyone has an abundance of), take a minute to comment below and let me know what you want to see, hear, and know. I can't promise I'll have an answer, but I can promise that I'll try. And that's all we can really do right?
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2/15/2017 06:22:14 pm
Yay! Great post - can wait to read more!!
2/21/2017 03:38:03 am
I'm new to your blog, and I'm interested in reading your "nerdy" thoughts and perspectives! My husband and I are (Caucasian) adoptive parents of two sons (one Korean-American and the other African American) and are doing our best to help them both be proud and comfortable with their racial/national identities.We love the diversity of our family, and are always looking for ways to learn and grow and give our boys tools to help them navigate life.
2/21/2017 06:40:41 am
Thanks ladies! Laurie - thanks for sharing your thoughts. Stay tuned and I'll definitely be putting out some posts and features that will be of interest to you and your family - welcome to the CCK family!
2/21/2017 07:03:53 am
I'm so glad you've started this blog back up. I HAVE missed reading your thoughts and ideas, and I think you're on the right track with your new plan. Excited to get more of YOU!
2/21/2017 08:02:44 am
Thanks Erika! I will definitely give you some more about my thoughts on that as I work it out in my head. Just warning you - there may be some rambling... But I hope you enjoy!
2/21/2017 09:19:58 am
I missed you! I like reading your blog.
2/21/2017 09:36:02 am
Thanks Monica! Let me know if there's anything in particular that you want to hear from me.
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