I LOVE a good party. Who doesn't? Since having kids, I feel that I'm being pulled in about 1,000 different directions and making time to spend with friends that I love is so much harder than it used to be. That's why I love having a party to get so many of the people I love and care about in one room. Oh, and because there's extra eyes on my kids I don't have to watch them every single second (true confessions here people!).
And having a lot of different people in the room presents a great opportunity for learning from each other while still having fun. Here are a few ways to infuse some diversity into your rocking good time.
Manga! I was so excited when we got to F post in this series. I knew from the very beginning that food would be the focus. I love to eat - it's one of my favorite pastimes. But in addition to eating itself, I also love to share food with others. I love to hear about what others grew up with, what the food culture was in their house, and what foods they enjoyed when they were young. Do this at a party and encourage everyone to bring a treasured food from their culture. You'll end up with quite an assortment, which will be so cool. I'll bet you'll even learn something about one of your friends (Bobby's grandmother was Polish and taught him how to make ridiculously delicious pierogis? Who knew?). Take this opportunity to share food with friends, family, and of course, your kids.
Invite EVERYONE: When I was younger, I used to be very careful and selective of the different friends that I would invite to parties or events. I wanted to make sure that everyone would get along and I sometimes worried that some people would clash with others or one group of friends wouldn't have anything in common with another group. I like to chalk that up to the insecurities of youth - now long gone (the youth part, not the insecurities). As I grew older, I began to realize a few things - that I wanted to hang out with everyone, all at once because having more people around is just more fun! It's also a great way to learn new things. Different groups of friends tend to bring different ideas, perspectives, and worldviews to the table. What a cool and fun way to increase diversity awareness! Oh, and one more thing, your friends all have at least one thing in common - you! So no matter how different people may seem, there are always commonalities. What a fantastic lesson for you and your kids.
Encourage Friends of Friends: This is one of my favorite ways to meet new people. You know cool people right? And they know cool people. So why don't we all get together and meet more cool people? Let your friends know that inviting others that they know is not just ok, it's highly encouraged. They may just bring someone that you've never met before from a particular culture. Or maybe they are from an area that you are not familiar with. It gives you an opportunity to learn something new and model inclusiveness for your kids. Then when you hit it off, your circle expands, as does your cultural and diversity knowledge and awareness. Oh, and you made a new friend in the process!
I hope you enjoyed this post and it made you think about how to throw a bigger and better party this year (before barbeque season is over). I hope you'll check back next week for letter Q. Any guesses as to what it might be about (hint hint)? Sign up for the newsletter so you don't have to remember to find out. It will all be delivered to your inbox along with more tips and strategies. Sign up today!
So much of what is discussed here at Culturally Competent Kids has to do with taking some kind of action or participating in some sort of activity. This post is about something quieter and a little more introspective: observation. Don't worry - for those of you who love to talk (I may or may not be one of those people), there is a part of this that involves talking, but much of this is about seeing more and speaking less. There are a number of components in this post. Even though it seems simple, don't skip the first one. It may be the most uncomfortable one, but it's also the most important.
Do Your Own Observations: This is of yourself and others. Take some time to observe your surroundings. Who do you see? What interactions do you observe? Who do you gravitate towards? Who gravitates towards you? What about your family, friends, and kids? What do you see in their interactions and behaviors?
Encourage Your Kids To Observe: Point out some of the things that you observe and then - here's the hard part - don't say anything for awhile! Let your kids see what you see, hear what you hear. They also need to discover new things, to come up with their own observations without constant commentary from adults. They may ask questions, which you can and should answer, but don't generate all the questions yourself. Let them ask their own.
Have the Discussion: Ok, now it's time to talk. What did your child observe? Was it different from what you saw? Are there patterns in your life around diversity? What questions does your child have for you? What questions do you have for your child? Did anything surprise you or make you uncomfortable?
Brainstorm Ways to Make Changes: Ok, so now what? Once you have observed and discussed, what should you do with your newfound information? Do you want to change anything about your town, your school, your community, yourself? Talk to your child about changes you can both make. Changes you can make together or alone. Big or small, doesn't matter. Teach your child that changing themselves can change others and therefore change the world. A seriously powerful message.
Will you try this with your kids? What did you observe in yourself and others? What did your kids observe? Leave a comment below. Check back next week for letter P. Sign up for the newsletter so you'll never miss a post. You'll get weekly tips and tricks delivered right to your inbox. Share with your friends, family, & community!
Oh, the good old-fashioned newspaper. Where has it gone?
I remember as a kid growing up in suburban New York when we started getting the New York Times delivered. The monstrosity that was the Sunday Times was always a big deal in my house (seriously, that thing probably weighed 10 pounds - I often carried it from the bottom of the driveway to the house - Sunday workout done). We would dissect it and claim our favorite sections - mine was definitely Style. Then we would sit at the breakfast table reading and chatting, often migrating to the living room when we had gotten enough food and caffeine. I still like to do the same thing when visiting my parents' house.
I really have to thank my parents for being avid newspaper readers because it made me want to be. I really think that there is something special and different about sitting on the couch with that big paper and a cup of coffee (or tea in my case). It's just not the same as sitting in front of your computer, phone, or TV. In my opinion, print news is not dead.
So, what about the diversity thing? And what does this have to do with our kiddos? Well the thing that's so great about print newspapers is that there is a plethora of ways to use it for all kids. Below are some ideas:
For the Artistic Kid: Who here didn't use newspapers on at least a monthly basis for an art project when you were younger? I know I did. You can do the same with your kids just change around the art project. Incorporate diversity in there by having them find words or pictures that have to do with a particular topic. Talk about how easy or difficult it is to find people of different races in the newspaper. There are lots of options. Use your imagination!
For the Analytical Kid: This is for the kids who can already read - probably best for teens and tweens. Have them read some of the articles in the paper and talk about the content and language in the articles related to diversity. Are most of the articles you are reading about a diversity of people? Do you notice that people of color are designated as such whereas people who are Caucasian are not (this happens frequently in articles)? Over time, do you notice that certain people are discussed often in the paper while others are left out? Design this around your child's interests.
For the Budding Writer: Have your kid read an article and then write an alternative version that focuses on diversity or changes the language. You could also have your child write an opinion piece and submit it to the paper.
How will you use newspapers with your kids? Do you have other ideas that aren't listed above? Leave a comment below and share your ideas!
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If you remember waaaayyyyyy back in the post for letter A we talked about art. And in that post, I listed a few museums around the U.S.A. and world that housed amazing art collections. While I still encourage you to check those out, the museums that I'm going to talk about here are slightly different.
Not all museums are about art - at least not paintings and sculpture. Many museums focus on culture and they are a great way to learn something new with your kids. A lot of them have absolutely fantastic children's programming as well so be sure to check out their websites and see what they have available. Then, if you're in the area, check out one of these fantastic museums in person. If they are too far, check out their websites or visit one of your local cultural museums for a fun dose of diversity!
Which museum interests you the most? Which will you check out first? Leave a comment below. And don't forget to check back next week for the next letter N. We are officially in the second half of the alphabet! You can still sign up for the newsletter and get all of the remaining letters and posts delivered right to your inbox so you don't have to remember to check. Enjoy and share with others!
Ahhh L. The letter of Life, Love and yes, LANGUAGE. So what do we mean when we say language? The languages that people speak in different countries? The differences in the way that people talk? All of the above? Yes!
Let's talk about different languages first. I think that it is so great when people speak another language. Here in DC, there are dual-language programs popping up in several elementary schools and I think it's fantastic. In fact, my kids are in a dual-language program at their school and it has been so good for them.
So what are the benefits of learning another language? I'm glad you asked...
But the way we communicate is just as important as the distinct language that we speak. There are so many regional differences between languages that sometimes it can be hard to understand someone who speaks the same language, but is from a totally different area. For example, though they both speak English, people with Boston accents sound quite different from people with southern drawls. And there are differences within a region too. Some people think that there is just one New York accent, but the way people speak in Brooklyn is different from how they talk in Staten Island, which is different from the accent of someone from Yonkers. And let's face it, anyone who spends time with teenagers knows that they have their own language unique to their age group. There are all kinds of phrases that teenagers say that others have no clue what they are talking about (what the heck is "on fleek" anyway?)
So, language is complicated. But we can stretch ourselves and always learn more. Will you learn how to speak another language (French, Mandarin, Teenager)? Will you learn more about regional differences and slang? What will you encourage with your children? Leave a comment below.
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Dr. Sweeney is a licensed school psychologist and cultural competence expert. Here are her musings on life in a multicultural world.
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